This past Sunday, I went to a baby shower and we played a little game where everyone tore off as much toilet paper as they wanted without having any idea why. Â When we were done, the hostess told us that for every square of toilet paper we had, we had to give one piece of parenting advice.
There we were, a handful of women from all walks of life and at every stage in motherhood sharing our best advice to parenting. Â There were tears and laughter alike. Â I really love hearing insight from other moms and how they view motherhood and their best words of wisdom, so I thought I would share some of my favorites from the afternoon!
1. Take care of yourself. Â Every mom hears this time and time again, but in reality, none of us really do. Â Make sure to exercise, eat healthy, drink water, shower and get dressed and pamper yourself sometimes too. Â You can only take care of others when you take care of yourself.
2. Â Remember the darker days turn into sunny days. Â We all agreed that motherhood is one of the most difficult jobs we’ve ever done, yet it’s the most delightful, fulfilling and rewarding all in one. Â The hardest times ALWAYS turn into the happiest.
3. Â Follow your intuition. Â A mother’s intuition is like none other. Â As a mother, you know your child better than anyone else and that makes you know what they want and need better than anyone else too. Â I think we’ve all had experience with people giving us advice. Â Some of it’s good and some of it simply won’t work for your child – you know the difference!
4. Go on dates. Â This one had multiple meanings. Â For moms with more than one child, spend time with each child individually by going out with them for simple activities like the park or ice cream. Â The other meaning of this is to not neglect your husband. Â Make sure to carve out some time to spend childless too!
5. Â Tell your kids you love them. Â You can never tell your kids you love them too many times. Â Showering kids with love is the best thing for them.
6. Parent each child as an individual yet the same. Â Each child has their own personality, so you must parent according to their needs. Â However, you want to keep things fair and consistent in your family.
7. Savor all the moments. Â We could all attest to this one no matter what age or how many kids we had. Â Kids grow upÂ so fast. Â It’s honestly incredible how fast time flies by even on the slowest days. Â I wish I could go back several months and redo them because they went too fast and now I’m on the horizon of having a toddler and I don’t know what to do with myself. Â Someone just pass the tissues.
8. Ask for help. Â It seriously takes a village to raise a child. Â No mother can do it all. Â Just ask for help when it’s needed and don’t say no when it’s offered.
9. Know your child’s friends and their parents. Â You want to know who your kids are hanging out with and you want to know their parents to make sure their parenting style somewhat aligns with yours. Â Make sure to know what’s going on with your kids.
10. Â Be consistent with whatever parenting techniques you use.Â We were lucky enough to have a psychologist in the group and this was her advice. Â She said that kids need consistency because it helps with their emotional security.
I love talking to other moms about all things parenting. Â Even if not everything we do is the same, you can usually learn something from other moms. Â It was so enlightening to hear from moms that have kids of all ages to gain insight into what I have to look forward to.
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What’s your best parenting advice?
What was your favorite thing about the way your parents parented you?
Mine was that I knew my parents would always love me unconditionally and that I could always rely on them. Â I hope I can give that to Aiden (and our future kids) too.