I just read Ashley’s post today and really liked how she summarized her year into the things that she’s learned. Yesterday, I shared all my favorite moments of 2013, but this year was also definitely a year of learning for me too.
1. I learned that I will never be perfect. I feel like I have strived to be perfect for so long in my life and I continued that streak when I became a mother. I wanted to make sure I did everything “perfect” for Aiden so he would grow and develop perfectly and be a perfect child as well. As much as I’ve tried to educate myself on all the parenting decisions, David and I have to make, there is never a cut and dry “perfect” way to do things. I do the best I can and that’s all I can do. At the end of the day, love is the foundation of good relationships.
2. I learned to let things go. This goes with number 1 in a way. I have always been Miss Productive. Before I had a baby, I ran from sun up until sun down and rarely had downtime trying to get as much done in the day as I could. During Acupuncture school, it really hit a head with trying to cram in as many classes as I could while getting boards done and a thesis written as fast as I could. Now that I’m a mother, I have decided that somedays I just don’t get things done. I cuddle Aiden and take care of him and if that’s all that gets done, I’m fine with that. My house isn’t always clean, there is always laundry and something always needs to be done; such is life.
3. I learned that professionally I want to specialize in pregnancy and labor and delivery. I know it sounds strange, but I love immersing myself in this stuff. It’s fascinating and I truly believe that every baby born is such a miracle that I want to be a part of it as much as possible. I want to attend births and help laboring mamas. I can’t wait to start this journey.
4. I learned that I have more love inside me that ever imaginable. I thought I loved Otis more than anything when we adopted him, but with a child, your heart grows bigger than you ever thought.
5. I learned that the first year of motherhood is hard. From the discomfort and still newly arising symptoms after having a baby to the sleepless nights to the parenting arguments, the first year of motherhood is difficult. We are still in it, but I feel like things are starting to get a little easier. They always said all good things are difficult to achieve. Motherhood is no different.
6. I learned that life is precious. Unfortunately, I’ve learned this lesson before, but this year was no stranger to it either. I also learned what a miracle a baby is which is equally as precious.
7. I learned to live healthfully because without your health, you have nothing. People take their health for granted and they shouldn’t. I’ve been in the process of adopting a healthier lifestyle for several years now, but I have made a huge push since Aiden was born by reducing the number of artificial ingredients I consume and getting household toxins out of our house.
8. There is no better instinct than a mother’s. It’s totally true that a mother has an inside connection to her child and just knows what they need. I learned to fully embrace that and not listen to other people.
What was your greatest lesson of 2013?