I just read Ashley’s postÂ today and really liked how she summarized her year into the things that she’s learned. Â Yesterday, I shared all my favorite moments of 2013, but this year was also definitely a year of learning for me too.
1. I learned that I will never be perfect. Â I feel like I have strived to be perfect for so long in my life and I continued that streak when I became a mother. Â I wanted to make sure I did everything “perfect” for Aiden so he would grow and develop perfectly and be a perfect child as well. Â As much as I’ve tried to educate myself on all the parenting decisions, David and I have to make, there is never a cut and dry “perfect” way to do things. Â I do the best I can and that’s all I can do. Â At the end of the day, love is the foundation of good relationships.
2. I learned to let things go.Â This goes with number 1 in a way. Â I have always been Miss Productive. Â Before I had a baby, I ran from sun up until sun down and rarely had downtime trying to get as much done in the day as I could. Â During Acupuncture school, it really hit a head with trying to cram in as many classes as I could while getting boards done and a thesis written as fast as I could. Â Now that I’m a mother, I have decided that somedays I just don’t get things done. Â I cuddle Aiden and take care of him and if that’s all that gets done, I’m fine with that. Â My house isn’t always clean, there is always laundry and something always needs to be done; such is life.
3. I learned that professionally I want to specialize in pregnancy and labor and delivery. Â I know it sounds strange, but I love immersing myself in this stuff. Â It’s fascinating and I truly believe that every baby born is such a miracle that I want to be a part of it as much as possible. Â I want to attend births and help laboring mamas. Â I can’t wait to start this journey.
4. I learned that I have more love inside me that ever imaginable.Â I thought I loved Otis more than anything when we adopted him, but with a child, your heart grows bigger than you ever thought.
5. I learned that the first year of motherhood is hard. Â From the discomfort and still newly arising symptoms after having a baby to the sleepless nights to the parenting arguments, the first year of motherhood is difficult. Â We are still in it, but I feel like things are starting to get a little easier. Â They always said all good things are difficult to achieve. Â Motherhood is no different.
6. I learned that life is precious.Â Unfortunately, I’ve learned this lesson before, but this year was no stranger to it either. Â I also learned what a miracle a baby is which is equally as precious.
7. Â I learned to live healthfully because without your health, you have nothing. People take their health for granted and they shouldn’t. Â I’ve been in the process of adopting a healthier lifestyle for several years now, but I have made a huge push since Aiden was born by reducing the number of artificial ingredients I consume and getting household toxins out of our house.
8. There is no better instinct than a mother’s. Â It’s totally true that a mother has an inside connection to her child and just knows what they need. Â I learned to fully embrace that and not listen to other people.
What was your greatest lesson of 2013?